No accounting for the school gene
By: Fauve Holihan
I gave birth to an alien. And I’m about one U.F.O. away from calling Scully and Mulder in to
crack the case of “Who are you, and what have you done with my kid?”
I say this because my oldest daughter Emily shows very few outward signs of being related to
me, where school is concerned.
Last Friday, Emily woke up and was clearly in the process of catching a nasty cold. Her throat burned, her eyes were red and her voice sounded more like Harvey Fierestein than a 14-year-old girl. The way her body dragged when she walked said it all: I feel terrible, and all I want to do is go back to bed and reclaim some of the hours of sleep I didn’t get last night.
I asked her if she wanted to stay home from school.
“Um, no way. I need to be there today – I have too much to do,” was her response.
Exhibit “A,” your honor, as proof of my child’s alien tendencies.
When I was 14 years old, I was thinking of new and inventive ways to miss school. I would sneak a heating pad into my room the night before, then just before I left my room the next morning, I’d spend five minutes with the pad – turned up all the way, of course – on my face …. Then, I would rush downstairs and ask my mom or dad to see if I had a fever. My faux-temperature trick worked nearly every time.
Once, while in the ninth grade, as Emily is, I was so determined to miss school (and the inevitable math test I wanted to avoid at all costs), that I told my parents that there had been an outbreak of bubonic plague at my high school, and I was too afraid to attend school. Because I didn’t want to die, I asked to stay home that day.
That trick didn’t work so well, and as I feared, I ended up with an “F” on the test.
Once, when I was a couple of years younger than Emily, I skipped my first day of school. I hid behind my house instead of walking to school, and waited until my mom and dad had both gone to work.
When my dad’s car finally pulled out of the driveway, I unlocked the door with my key and enjoyed a full day of cartoons, soap operas and a nap.
That sort of school avoidance would never occur to Emily. She actually enjoys school. She looks forward to being challenged and tested, and even if she woke up with a leg missing, she would stick a band-aid on it and hobble off to school.
I was fully prepared to be a parent that could deal with truancy. I took copious notes as a child and teenager, in order to prepare myself for motherhood to children who would be like me – underachieving skippers with bubonic plague.
Somehow, I ended up with an alien who would rather go to school than stay at home. And rather than become a terrible student so that I can mother her in a situation that I’m more familiar with, Emily from Mars gets As, rather than Fs.
She embraces learning in such a way that is so foreign to me, and I don’t know how to cope with it. I have this kid that could not be more different than I was, and I don’t know what to do.
And what’s even more frightening is realizing that Emily’s twin doppelganger, 11-year-old Jane, is just like her.
Aliens have overtaken my home, and they’re frightening. I don’t know what to do.
Mulder, Scully…help!
You’re the only ones that can show me how to deal with this situation.
The truth is out there….
Fauve Holihan is a writer and public relations professional.
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